What is true “love,” in the end?
You meet somebody. You get to know that person a little. You become emotional towards that other person. But is your experience true love? Often, it’s not.
Your emotions create thoughts and your thoughts create emotions. They feed off eachother. The feeling of being in love takes root inside of you. You hypnotize yourself!
When you’re alone, you begin to think about that person and create an image of him or her. Eventually, you end up with an image that has been created by you in your mind in response to certain qualities that you see in your new beloved. But is your image an accurate representation, or are you idealizing the object of your affection?
Here is my question to you:
Are you happy being single? Is your self-esteem high without a partner? Or are you using somebody to fill a gap in your ego?
Real, quality long-term relationships are built on mutual service and not egoism and neediness. True love and the experience of being soulmates, if they exist, are created through mutual fulfillment.
When someone says I love ____, I like to ask, yes, but do you like ____? Could you see yourself liking this person irrespective of sex?
Because, in the end, if true love exists then it must be lasting, and for it to be lasting, there has to be congruence.