It’s my experience that people with a sensitive personality tend to suffer the most in life. But they also have more potential to experience joy. So, if you’re an over-sensitive person, I hope that you read this article and look around my site. You might find some of the information useful.
Highly sensitive people tend to feel negative emotions very intensely. They get upset very easily when something bad happens and they let all the negative experiences affect their lives. The first thing I want to say is that the main challenge for sensitive people is to find a strategy to overcome all the bad aspects of life by taking a step forward, rather than sinking into the abyss of emotional turmoil.
Negative emotions, in and of themselves, are not necessarily bad. They give us information about ourselves. The more negative emotions we feel, the more we know that we are not living our lives in a way that suits us. We could be in the wrong job, we could be studying the wrong thing in college, we could be in the wrong relationship or we could be lonely. Or any combination of many things.
Even worse, we could have bad emotions about ourselves. We could feel worthless, have low self-esteem, etc…
What to do? Make a decision right now to change your focus. What have you been focusing on the last few days? Would you feel better if you began to focus on something else?
Basically, in life, most people chase emotions. Most of the things people want, they don’t really want. What they want is the emotions they will experience by achieving those things. Sports and an obsession with winning, trying to defeat other people, plastic surgery, using sexual attractiveness to boost the ego – all these things are substitutes for truly good emotions – they’re masks. That’s why they never lead to any real happiness. If you live like this, you’re always chasing something, you’re always behind, always grasping. You never find inner peace.
When something is bothering you, when you’re really feeling the negative emotions, try something different next time. Don’t try to escape the bad feelings by grasping for shadow substitutes – Feel the emotions. Feel them as intensely as possible. By doing this, you can really start to understand yourself better.
Feel the emotions – accept them – allow them into your consciousness – then take a deep breath and as you exhale imagine that you are letting go of the negative emotions, as if you were cutting a rope and releasing a boat into the sea to float away. Then repeat this process. Feel – accept – allow – keep feeling – take a deep breath and let go.
You’ll find that every time you do this you’ll feel a little bit better. You’ll arrive at a better emotional place. At least I do. You have to do it like the ebb and flow of water on the shore.
The more you do this, the more you’ll see that your emotions are not static, that they are not you, they are like a river, flowing. The more rocks, stones and clumps of grass you remove, the better the emotions will flow and the closer you will get to your true self, which is just there, being – it’s just that it’s obscured by all the emotions stuck there.
A lot of people want to get rich by selling miraculous “methods” that cost a fortune. There’s no need to buy a method. You can do this alone, anywhere. And it’s free.
I find that when I forget to do this, when I don’t take the time to “step back” from life and from my emotions, my life feels worse, nothing is as vibrant. Life truly sucks!
I think that this experience of feeling your emotions and letting them go is actually more important than food, in a way. It’s almost as important as breathing. When we spend our lives trying to escape from our own emotions all the time, we actually re-create them and they get worse.
Feeling and letting go is more powerful and more self-transforming than grasping for emotions in a vain attempt to numb our emotional pain. Grasping for an escape comes from the ego. The ego is the “self” we created in our minds. Often, it wasn’t even created by us. It was created by other people’s perceptions of us and by random events that happened in our lives.
This is not the true self.
Practise feeling and letting go every day, and hopefully you’ll get closer to your real self.
Some people deal with bad emotions by becoming assholes. They take out their misery on others. Sensitive people often take it out on themselves. This is the cycle you have to break. With conscious awareness of feeling./em
