If you’re anywhere between 18 and 28 years old, or even older, and you don’t know how to get a girlfriend, then this article is for you. I’m going to explain five key points that I had to work through in my life before I became successful with women.
1. Work on yourself and don’t expect the girls to change.
If you want to get girlfriends easily, you have to change. Society will not change for you.
If you want to make it easy for yourself to get girlfriends then you should get into self-improvement. Think about it: you want girls to like you. Ask yourself this: What do you have to offer? Relationships are a two-way street. You have to learn how to provide value. You can’t just sit around and think “I want her to like me for who I am.” Not if you’re being pathetic, anyways.
Start making improvements in every aspect of your life. If you want a girlfriend and you don’t know how to get one, then the chances are that your life sucks.
So take a good look at yourself. Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. Be honest. Then take your weaknesses and get a little better. Exercising, changing your diet, becoming more disciplined, learning a new skill, all of these can be useful in attracting women. The point is to make yourself a better person and to have more skills, little by little. Over time, it will pile up, trust me.
2. Belief.
This is one of the most important elements. If you approach a woman and you don’t believe you can succeed with her, then chances are she won’t like you. She wants somebody who would walk up to her and not care what she says or thinks. That’s how most girls think.
Have you ever been at a party, or some other social gathering, and some dumb, not very good-looking guy gets all the girls? It’s because he believes. And the girls see him as confident. In simple terms, here’s your answer:
Luke – I don’t believe it.
Yoda – That is why you fail.
If you don’t believe, you will fail. And the key to be increasing your belief is point number one above. Self-improvement.
3. Don’t try to impress her.
If you try to impress her, then it means that you don’t truly believe in yourself. You are stretching. Don’t be a phony. Dating skills can be useful, but dating skills alone will not solve your problem. Besides, girls can see right through guys who try to impress them, and, I must tell you, most of them are not very impressed at all. It is suck-up behaviour.
If sucking up does work, then it’s probably not the girl you want. She will want to run your life.
4. Have something in your life – a purpose.
It can be practically anything you can imagine. Mountaineering, computer science mastery, the guitar, traveling, whatever makes you feel inspired. When you have inspiration, people respect that, and girls will come to you.
It’s not about lame-ass “social status.” How many guys with great jobs have I seen sucking up to women and trying to brag about their job? Lots. If you use “social status,” career status or money to attract women, you attract only the ones who want the money, generally. This is not the path to real success in getting girlfriends.
You don’t need any bullshit societal “status” and approval to easily get girlfriends. All you need is a passion for something and the discipline to pursue it. Stay on your path and don’t let anyone distract you.
5. Know that you will make a fool of yourself once in awhile.
So you made a fool of yourself yesterday. Who the fuck cares? If you laugh at your own mistakes, a lot of girls will like it. Just keep believing.
When I was younger, I did all the wrong things. I did that for a few years. Those things didn’t work. I realized the error of my ways, so I changed my approach. I began with self-improvement. Check out another of my articles on getting a girlfriend in order to find out more.
Once you push through the initial difficulties of making changes, having belief, going for it and being a fool once in a while, it will become easy.
It did for me, at least, and I sucked at it when I started.