What is the comfort zone?
- If your life feels boring, you’ve trapped yourself in your comfort zone.
- If your life is “comfortable” and yet something is always missing, your comfort zone has you trapped.
- If you’re miserable, chances are that living within your comfort zone has played a part in creating your misery.
Your comfort zone is the limited range of thoughts, behaviors, beliefs and emotions that you live within and repeat every day. If you’re afraid to approach a girl, if you won’t fly on an airplane, if you fear public speaking, then all of these behaviors are outside of your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is a habit. It’s not actually the real you. It is you limited by a bunch of insecurities that don’t really have to be there.
My point? Breaking out of your comfort zone is one of the keys to success in any life endeavour. In order to succeed with women, you must open yourself up to rejection. If you want to succeed as an entrepreneur, you must be willing to let go of job security. You have to crush your comfort zone and come through, still standing, on the other side. The good news is that it’s actually much easier than most people believe.
I believe that as we grow up, we are shaped by our life experiences and by how we respond to them. It’s like a dance. This is how the comfort zone is created. The dance between ourselves and the society and people that surround us.
- If you approach three different girls when you’re in high school and they all reject you, perhaps you will retreat into a shell and stop approaching girls. It makes sense, in a way. But… That’s precicely how you ruin your chances with women for the rest of your life! You will never get a girlfriend.
- If you fear getting on a plane, and because of your fear you never get on one, the fear grows and ruins your life. You can’t travel much, you can’t visit relatives, you can’t leave the ground.
- If you have to give a speech in school and people make fun of you, then you might start avoiding public speaking in the future. That rules out a lot of jobs and can hold you back in so many ways.
The good news?
Usually, once you get out of your comfort zone and experience the thing that you fear, you see that it was nothing but a cobweb in your mind.
For example, I used to get nervous before public speaking and I therefore avoided public speaking at all costs. I did that for quite a few years before I realized that challenging myself would be the only way to get over it. So I took a teaching course, and, voila! My dislike for public speaking disintegrated on the first day of the course! Because i went out and DID it.
Put yourself out there. Do the things you fear. Otherwise, how will you know? If you sit there like a wuss in your little comfort zone, you will never know what could have been. And that’s a total waste of a life.
Here’s an exercise: What do you really suck at? What makes your life really suck? Being in crowds? Meeting the opposite sex? Dancing in public? Find the one thing you really suck at and then go do it to get better.
That’s what I did, and it worked. So why not give it a try?
